Mom Style

Motherhood is using an Avengers umbrella while walking through downtown with no kids in tow because you have no idea where yours is hiding.

Just another day...

You know you have kids when your hair dryer has boogers on it.

Choosing Childhood

Some may wonder if I also stick to my principles with things like monsters, ghosts, and all that go bump in the night. Absolutely. If my son comes to me afraid of monsters in his room, what does it really do for me to say they don't exist? If I say, there is nothing to be afraid of, monsters don't exist. It does a number of things. It invalidates what he is feeling, it may cut off communication about monsters between us, and it definitely doesn't let him work through what he is feeling and problem solve. Just because monsters don't exist in my reality (most of the time) it doesn't mean they aren't real to him, even if I tell him they aren't real, he will probably continue on being afraid of them.

Instead, I choose to empower him to take care of the problem. I reassure him that Mommy and Daddy are here to protect him. I also ask him what he thinks will help make them go away. I let him come up with a resolution. This not only teaches him that we, as parents, are hear to listen to him, it also teaches him that him can do something to solve his problems and be in charge of his environment. This is a far greater and more important thing to teach than to simply be the authority on all that is real. That is not what I am here for. I am here to guide my child. I am here to make him strong in self and strong of mind. No one is an authority on life. Reality is just a collection of what everyone accepts as true. I always try to remember that I have not experienced everything and just because my son is younger, it does not mean he is any less of a person or that what he is feeling is invalid because most accept it as untrue.

I choose to let him experience the greatest gift he has been given - his childhood. I choose to allow his mind to develop naturally. This is not lying to him. This is preparing him. Why would I rush him? So he can think like an adult?

The World Still Needs its Dreamers

It seems like parents want their children to forgo their childhood and understand and experience things like adults do sooner than ever. Children need to be children. A child's mind is a beautiful mix of reality and the impossible all rolled into one. A child will see things with open eyes and wonder, whereas an adult will see things with eyes of disbelief and closed doors. The world needs people who believe anything and everything is possible. Ingenuity, innovation and pure genius does not come from being told not to think and believe things. It comes from believing it is possible and figuring out how it is done. Don't tell my child what he thinks, believes and experiences in his eyes is untrue, false, silly or anything else negative. The world is full of this. I want my child to have a childhood of possibilities mixed in with the impossible ones.

I foster my children's beliefs, interests and child like nature. It is not my job to crush his beliefs. It is my job to let him search for himself and what he knows to be true. If he thinks he will get bitten by a spider and have abilities like Spiderman, so be it. I teach my kids to believe in what they want and I am here to support them. I do not crush their dreams and beliefs and tell them things are not real. I support them and their quest for knowledge. My kid will be better because he believes in things and that anything is possible. The people that succeed know the world only has the limits that people put on them and others.

Stealing or Sharing?

You can determine how well (or not) you have been teaching your 3 year old about sharing by trying to sneak a bite of his food and getting caught. Luckily I have passed the test.

As I reached for Caedan's pop tart and took a bite, he suddenly turned around. His reaction? Thanks for taking a bite of my pop tart, Mom! Now we shared!

Whew.

Ice Cream Anyone?

Would you be suspicious of your neighbor if the ice cream man visited daily? I mean stopped in front of his house, 45 year old man waiting at the door, who comes right out, transaction occurs and then he says see you tomorrow? Nah, I didn't think it was either. Not sketchy in the least. I figure he has a scheduled pig out time right after he hits the gym. That must be it. I'm sure.

You know you have a 3 year when...

There comes a time when you forget that people around you probably think what you just said or what your preschooler just did is completely odd. I have long since reached that.

I have recently been heard saying things like: Spiderman, are you ok?!, when my kid falls, without giving it a second thought. Repeatedly saying dun de dun! Not to mention knowing exactly what an odd mumble means.

I have also come to recognize that I will get odd looks because my son likes to greet everyone we pass with devil horns. In all actuality, he is Spiderman and trapping them in a web. However, Spiderman uses the I love you symbol. This is too hard for a 3 year old so mine rocks on in style.

Looks from teens are the best, because they have never "been there."

No matter what, I love my kid and at least he isn't giving people the finger. Yet.